Attention Young Men!

YOU HAVE BEEN LIED TO!

For the last several years, I have met with you. Spoken to you, and listened. From your teens to your late twenties, I have heard similar stories. You feel disconnected from yourself. You numb yourself with weed and alcohol. You watch a few motivational videos and think you have this beast beat, only to spend five hours playing video games and passing out. Instead of risking rejection and loss, you watch porn. Instead of determining who you are and what your gifts are, you do what is expected of you, by your parents or society. You have received so many conflicting messages about how to be and who to be. You allow screens to determine your worth. You allow paid influencers to tell you what the opposite sex wants. And then the hopelessness seeps in.

You cannot hear yourself because the noise is too loud.

I do not pretend to know who benefits from the slow erosion of your sense of direction, strength, and meaning. But I do know this: it’s all bullshit.

You see, we need you. When I say “we”, I mean society. I mean women. I mean other men, I mean the vulnerable ( children, elderly, disadvantaged). We need you to find your purpose. We need you to find your strength. The qualities of male energy are desperately required right now. Honor, Strength, Courage, and Steadfastness.

All of the noise that you have succumbed to is just that..noise.

The reality is this:

1. You have a purpose. If you want something different, do something different. Tech cleanse- no social media, no news. Weed cleanse. Alcohol cleanse. Porn cleanse. Focus on you. Learn to get comfortable with internal quiet. Meditation/prayer is your friend.

2. Women (who have done their own personal work) love strength.They love focus. They love decisiveness. They crave a committed and determined man. Even if you are short or bald. She is out there.

3. All great men have gone through dark nights of the soul. Become curious. Why is the old way no longer serving me? What do I need to do now? Get quiet within yourself. And be patient.

4. Commit to something. Building courage, building strength, building community, building confidence in yourself.

5. Understand that fear is an energy. If you feed it, it grows. How to stop feeding it? Notice it when it arises, name it, label it as inaccurate and unhelpful. Do this over and over and over.

Surround yourself with people who are authentic and want similar things.

Do these things for 30 days.

And then tell me, HOW DO YOU FEEL NOW?